Why this one woman feels grateful after her miscarriage
Miscarriage and grateful are two words you’d be surprised to find used in the same sentence, but for one woman, losing a child taught her a valuable lesson.
Shelly Mettling has revealed in a heart-breaking Instagram post that she felt “grateful” following the news that she and her husband had miscarried what would’ve been their third child.
Despite initial reactions of anger, sadness and confusion, the fitness entrepreneur said that she is holding on to subsequent feelings of the gratitude she felt two weeks ago, when she first found out that she was pregnant.
The Last 72 Hours… UGH <– realistically the only word that truly describes the Emotions! 2 weeks ago We found out we were growing our Family to 3… We were Excited, Nervous, and Extremely Grateful! Today is a bit different…As We lay here losing something we prayed so damn hard for I can't help but be Angry, Emotional, Sad, Confused, and Frustrated! But the one Feeling I am holding onto from 2 weeks prior… GRATEFUL! I'm grateful that I got to Feel (even for a short time) the power of Motherhood! I'm grateful that I got to Experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly! I'm grateful I got to Feel the Love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met! I'm grateful for the Fact that God Gave me this Experience to test my strength! I'm Grateful for the Family and Friends that have been checking in on me and lifting me up when I've been So Knocked down it's hard to visualize standing again! I'm grateful I have a platform to share my story to help others who have made room in their own hearts for someone special they too never got to meet! I'm grateful for the mindset I've been working on daily the past 2 years and the fact that through all this Pain I'm able to still see that there is purpose in all this madness! I'm Sad, I'm Heartbroken, I'm torn to pieces But I'm Grateful! Because… "A Grateful Heart is a magnet for miracles" and Life still has a lot of those in store for me! #ForeverInMyHeart #AlwaysGrateful #miscarriage #Blessed
The Minnesota-based mother explained that instead of allowing the miscarriage to torment her, she is learning to appreciate the power of motherhood and understanding how adversity can build and test strength.
“There is something #Powerful about understanding when we are powerless…” she told her 14,000 followers.
She added that she is grateful to have a platform on which to share her experience and help other couples who have gone through a miscarriage.
“I’m grateful that I got to experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly,” she wrote.
“I’m grateful I got to feel the love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met.”
"You've Lost your Baby" 👆🏼The hard part is over, right? WRONG! I'm about to get Raw & Real… not because I feel comfortable to but because I think it's important for All the Other Woman (the 1/4) to hear. We've endured one of the most Emotionally and Sometimes Physically painful thing we could ever Endure as a Female and although it's "Over" it's NEVER REALLY Over! Now… We scroll our Facebooks where it seems to be that EVERY other Couple has a Mom & Dad Coffee Mug with little booties in between… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Go on a Walk to clear our Minds only to see a Mom walking with her New Born Baby in the adorable little stroller we pinned to our Pinterest board just a few weeks prior… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Turn on the TV to Watch our Fav Show "Friends" to only see it's the one where Rachel Gets Pregnant… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We Receive a package in the Mail with the T shirt we were going to use to So Excitedly Announce our Pregnancy to the World…INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE We get invited to a Baby Shower that just so Happens to be the day we had our first Ultrasound scheduled to hear the heartbeat of our Baby that we Now have to call and Cancel… INSERT KNIFE TO THE ❤️ HERE and On Top of it all… WE FEEL Ashamed For Feeling angry at all the Happiness & Love that Surrounds us from the things listed above! It's Not Over! It will Never be Over! We will always carry this Pain! and we will always feel Powerless about the situation that occurred! And although we can't control What Happened we can control how we handle it! Personally I plan on handling it with Purpose… Sharing my story Being public about my feelings Digging into the Real & Raw Emotions Why??? I HAVE NO IDEA HONESTLY lol Maybe it's a Coping Mechanism or Maybe it's my Destiny but I can't help but imagine that something EXTREMELY POWERFUL can come out of Something that Feels So EXTREMELY POWERLESS! #AngelBaby #ForeverInOurHeart #MommyToBe #futuremommy
Mettling’s followers were quick to offer their support.
“So sorry to hear this – you’re in my prayers,” one wrote.
“No one should have to experience the loss of a child,” another added.
Miscarriages are more common in the UK than people realise, with one in six pregnancies resulting in one, according to the NHS